On Feb 21, 2015 I married the love of my life Holly and it was a packaged deal. Holly was previously married and has 2 great kids ages 5 and 7. I was previously married before and have a total of 3 kids who range in age from 6 to 15.
Our wedding day was great, but getting there wasn't always smooth. This was not just a wedding for us, but a wedding for our whole family and we wanted to include the kids throughout the ceremony and celebration. My thoughts were as such...Will the kids get ready without a fight? Will the youngest ones going to make a scene in the middle of the ceremony...will they dump our unity sand all over the place and have a sand fight...will we get any family pictures that we could look back on and say...hey we kinda look good in pictures (especially for pictures since I am a professional photographer). The answer to all of that is that reality ended up being awesome. So through this process I have learned 3 things from my blended family wedding that I would like to share with you.
Relay your thoughts, feelings and concerns to your wedding vendors. You hired professionals for a reason and they will help you keep things in check. Many times I have seen (when I am shooting a wedding) where the kids will listen to me more than a parent and it works out fine.
Enjoy the day! If you enjoy the day your kids will enjoy the day and that goes for everything in life...kids will follow (whether we like it or not) the attitude that is given off by the adults.
Let it go (in my best frozen singing voice)! If the kids scream, cry, barf, disobey let it go (yes all of that did happen with us)...its about the union of us as well as our families.
Kids will be kids...but a family will always be a family!